I come from a blended family. My mom and dad divorced when I was two years old. My mom has been married three times and my dad was married five (yes you read that right, LOL). I have two half-sisters, a sister from my dad’s side that I am 10 years older than and a sister on my mom’s side that I am 6 years older.
I was physically and sexually abused growing up by almost every man in my life including ones that were supposed to show me what unconditional love is. I was unwanted by both parents and was more of a burden or obligation than a gift. After a failed suicide attempt at 16, I felt God didn’t even want me and the best way to describe is that my heart became stone, and I just had hate and indifference inside of me. I ended up getting married to the first guy that proposed to me after only knowing him less than a year which turned into an alcohol abusing very toxic relationship. I divorced him after 11 years and decided to start going back to church.
I started dating Josh and was going to church BUT was a raging alcoholic. I learned that Josh was a year and a half sober, and that alcohol wasn’t allowed in his life or home. After dating a couple months, Josh told me that we couldn’t be together due to my drinking, little did he know that I had quit and was a week sober. Our joke is that I led Josh to church, and he led me to sobriety.
Our relationship should not have or still be successful – we are both extremely broken individuals that have very broken pasts…. BUT GOD….
We want to show couples and their stepfamilies that God is a God of redeeming grace – yes you may feel like you have a big red “D” (divorced) on your shirt when you walk into church, but God has forgiven you.
God can restore your marriage; God can create a community around you to help remind you when things get tough, HE is God, and HE has it all under control.
We need each other s
o that we know that we are not alone! You don’t have to sit in silence and think that your feelings about your step-kids sometimes are “wrong” – they are normal!
Let’s connect, Let’s be blended together.