Are you always the one that is “giving in” in your relationship?
We ALL have felt that we are the one that is ALWAYS giving in. A lot of the time, your spouse feels the same way!
That is why communication is the most important action in your marriage.
If you and your spouse aren’t to a place where you communicate in a healthy way – please stop reading now and listen to this – listen now
If you and your spouse do have healthy communication and can be honest and open with your feelings with one another, then read on! ;)
Compromise is a superpower in a relationship and can make your relationship flourish!
How is compromise such a superpower and what makes it open doors within your relationship to grow together AND get closer with God?
1. Its Gods will!
It is God’s will to compromise FOR one another. Ephesians 5:22-33 – We encourage you to read through this in the bible together. Part of softening your heart towards your spouse is softening it towards God and having Him help you see where you can bend a little. Men are to sacrifice for their wives and wives are to submit to their husbands. We can all agree that God knows what is best for us better than us. Let’s make sure to align our marriage with Gods word. We posted the verses below.
2. It develops a team mindset
Having a team mindset is a good thing for both of you! Don’t you want to always think of one another as “one”. You ARE a team! When you start looking around and getting irritated with everything that your spouse is not doing and listing off all the things in your head of what you are doing, STOP! Reverse this thought process – what does your spouse have going on and what are they doing for your relationship? Then start thinking about all the things that you are not doing – and do better. This will help change your perception along with PRAYER!
3. Compromise allows for a middle ground or a “win-win”
One of the things that I used to always say to Josh is “Just because your way is right doesn’t mean my way is wrong.” There is always a middle ground that you both can come to as a compromise. You need to brainstorm together what you are talking about and approach it as a team with wanting to develop a solution. You and your spouse are on the same team and if you are constantly trying to be the one that is right that means your spouse loses and SURPRISE – if your spouse loses, you lose.
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We hope that you will have compromise in your relationship and help your marriage THRIVE!
Here is the bible verse we were referring to up above – Ephesians
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husband’s ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[b] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.